There is no “one-size-fits-all” approach to coping with stressful situations, but laughter and humour are two powerful tools that can help you get through challenging times. Stress, anxiety and anger can build up over time and it’s important to have skills to let go of them.
Now more than ever, as we respond to the unprecedented challenges created by the coronavirus, finding coping mechanisms for stress, anxiety and isolation is critical. During times of uncertainty, a little bit of humour can reduce stress and improve your mood.
No, laughing is not going to solve your problems but many studies have shown that laughter and humour can indeed help, even in the most challenging situations. Of course, use humour appropriately. Make fun of the situation, not a person and be careful not to offend, embarrass or intimidate. Use humour that is uplifting.
With more than 20 years’ experience in the human services field, I have learned the importance of having laughter and humour in my own life. I have worked in high-stress workplaces and often witnessed distressing situations. Finding humour in the midst of stress has been incredibly healing and therapeutic. It has helped me to maintain a positive, optimistic outlook through difficult and overwhelming circumstances. I have become more resilient, calm and balanced too.
Over the years, I have met hundreds of dedicated people in frontline roles, including emergency services personnel, medical staff, corrections workers, crisis and mental health professionals... and learned a great deal from them. I have also spoken to non-operational workers, such as call and helpline operators, online moderators and other, behind-the-scenes support staff. Humour is commonly used as a coping mechanism; a way to deal with the trauma, violence and tragedy they are exposed to on a daily basis. Often, a very specific type of humour, called “black” humour, is used.
What is "black" humour?
This type of dark humour makes fun of distressing, gruesome or morbid situations and may seem insensitive, hurtful or uncaring to people not involved in intense, emotionally demanding roles. However, when used appropriately, “black” humour can act as a positive, healthy coping strategy against getting overly involved in misery and suffering. It is a way to share traumatic experiences with colleagues and provides an outlet for relief from trying circumstances.
As a counsellor, I have been exposed to emotionally demanding situations and understand the importance of “black” humour in high-stress workplaces. While “black” humour is a useful coping mechanism, it shouldn’t be the ONLY way to cope in upsetting and challenging situations. It is important to have a range of different tools and strategies available to ensure we remain mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually well balanced.
So, humour in general – or “black” humour – CAN play a very important role in your overall mental health and wellbeing. Importantly, in times of crisis, humour is a powerful coping mechanism, making the unbearable a little more bearable.
Are you feeling stressed? When was the last time you laughed?
If it’s been a while, do yourself a favour and start incorporating some humour into your daily life!!!
Eila Mikkonen
Counsellor, Coach & Mental Fitness Facilitator